The dating world can be quite confusing. On the one hand, it seems obvious that you can tell if it was a good or bad date, but on the other hand, you can’t be sure because of over-thinking, clumsiness, and the fact that you’re just trying to figure out what the other person is thinking or why they’re acting a certain way. The first appointments are particularly difficult to pin down because, most of the time, you do not know the person well and do not know how to interpret his behavior. Some people talk a lot when they are comfortable and having fun, others enjoy a comfortable silence. Some people speak out of nervousness, others remain silent for the same reason. Here is a tip for the first date: 8 signs show if it was a good first date.
8. You felt comfortable
The initial discomfort is acceptable on the first date, this is what we all feel when we go out with someone for the first time. But if, after 15 to 20 minutes, you felt comfortable with the person you were meeting, that’s a good sign. In general, it’s always a good sign if you feel comfortable enough to be yourself and say what you think without feeling uncomfortable.
7. You both talked about it in much the same way
The purpose of a date is to get to know each other better and that means you both have to talk to make this happen. So if you feel like you’ve taken turns telling stories about yourself and you’ve both talked about the same thing, that’s also a good sign. You never want to be the only one talking, just like you don’t want to be a silent participant who has to hear a person talk about themselves all the time.
6. You find the same things funny
There’s nothing worse than having a date with someone who doesn’t fit your sense of humor. If you laugh at the same jokes, find the same things hilarious, and feel like you’re on the same page when it comes to humor, that’s a good sign.
5. You haven’t scrolled through your phone
This may sound strange, given that these days we spend most of our time on the phone, but not reaching out for entertainment is a good sign. This means you were engaged in the conversation and had a great time on a date instead of getting bored and scrolling through Instagram to keep you busy. The occasional use of a phone to take a picture together or to show an smth reference does not count, it is good, we know that it is almost impossible not to use a phone at all.
4. You seemed satisfied and happy
It’s definitely a good thing if a person seems happy with their life and has good things to say about it. Yes, sometimes you can make connections by not liking the same thing, but if the person spends the whole evening complaining about their life, work, or previous relationships – that’s not great.
3. You look cold even in the face of inconvenience
You don’t want to see a collapse on the first day, or at any appointment for that matter. So if the person you dated seemed calm, poised, and positive even when things weren’t going as planned – that’s a very good sign. You want someone who takes matters into their own hands and keeps a cool head in stressful situations.
2. The date was longer than expected
We all tend to run away when we feel uncomfortable. So if you didn’t have to call a friend or simulate an emergency and you felt like time was running by fast and suddenly the appointment was much later than expected, the appointment was good.
1. You plan to see them again
It is not a question of saying “we should do it again” and running away. If you really feel like seeing them again and you’ve sent each other messages and made plans for the next date that excite you both, you know it’s a good date.